5 Signs Couples Counselling Isn’t Working
By Robyn Jackman, Registered Clinical Social Worker Relationship counselling should bring clarity and growth. However, many couples stay in the same patterns for months. You may sit in the therapist’s office, talk through the same issues, and leave without real change. Although this can feel discouraging, it is also common. Many couples wonder if they […]
What Successful Couples Do to Build Lasting Love
By Robyn Jackman, Registered Clinical Social Worker Every Successful couple reaches a crossroads where couples either grow together or drift apart. The difference between thriving and struggling relationships is not luck or love alone. It is the intentional habits couples practice daily. At Intentional Outcomes Counselling (IOC), we see this pattern often. Two people can love […]
What Are We Fighting About?
Conflict is an inevitable part of every relationship. No matter how much love or compatibility exists, disagreements will arise. Yet, as psychotherapist Esther Perel reminds us, most arguments aren’t truly about what they seem. Beneath the surface, conflicts often reflect deeper emotional needs—the desire to feel heard, valued, safe, or in control. When these needs […]
How to Share Without Overwhelming Others
Am I Trauma Dumping? Many of us struggle with knowing when, how, and with who to share difficult experiences. Talking about trauma is important, but when shared without boundaries, intent, or consent, it can unintentionally overwhelm others and yourself. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t share-but let’s look at finding ways to do so that is […]
Why We Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
Many people find themselves repeating relationship patterns choosing emotionally unavailable partners or reliving the same painful conflicts. This isn’t about bad luck or being broken. Instead, these patterns often have deep psychological and emotional roots. However, once you understand where these cycles come from, you can begin to break free and build healthier, more fulfilling […]
How to Pause, Name, and Feel Your Emotions to Heal
In a fast-paced world, it’s easy to get swept up in emotions without understanding them. Slowing down and naming your emotions might seem simple, but it’s a powerful tool for emotional understanding and mental well-being. The Science of Naming Emotions: Have you heard of the phrase, “Name it to Tame it”? This was coined by […]
How to Heal from Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder
Infidelity can have long-lasting emotional and psychological scars. For some, the emotional distress following infidelity can lead to a condition known as Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder (PISD). Post-infidelity stress disorder is not universally experienced by everyone who has been affected by infidelity. However, understanding the deep psychological impact of betrayal can provide clarity while navigating this […]
Managing Difficult Relationships During the Holidays
The holidays are often seen as a time of joy and connection, but let’s be honest, they can also highlight difficult relationships. Spending time with certain family members can sometimes feel more like a stress marathon than a celebration. Maybe it’s the cousin who overshares, the uncle who insists on turning dinner into a debate, […]
How Different Communication Styles Impact Relationships
Types of Communication Styles: We often hear that “communication is key” in relationships, but what does that really mean? Understanding your communication style and the styles of those around you can help untangle the daily misunderstandings that naturally arise in relationships. As we prepare to launch our Intentional Love Program, now is the perfect time […]
Understanding and Navigating Toxic Family Dynamics
Families are complex. At their best, they offer love, connection, and support. Yet at times, family dynamics can feel draining, confusing, or even painful. When relationships become toxic, they can deeply affect your emotional and physical well-being. These experiences may leave lasting stress, anxiety, or self-doubt. Recognizing unhealthy patterns is the first step toward healing […]